I just don’t get it. Something is said, implied, implicated. When parroted back, you are accused of ‘putting words’ in the mouth of others, ‘spreading rumors’. It’s really fascinating to watch and hear how I’m told to choose from among several options presented to me yet the choice I make is wrong, stupid, inequitable, not fair. And I’m told so. Yet, I didn’t make these offers. I was instructed to make a choice. And I choose. Yet, my choice is wrong somehow. I choose again. Wrong choice. Eventually the right choice is the one option that was solely intended to be selected in the first place. So why offer options?
It was amusing when, somehow, I become the bad guy when I made a choice of the presented offers. When asked if I would offer the same option I choose to others, I said no. Because that option isn’t fair to anyone involved. It’s so obvious. I realize that. Yet, it is in the offer. I didn’t make this offer. Why am I the bad guy for choosing that option? Why am I the bad guy for stating the obvious. The obvious being it shouldn’t have been a written option in the first place.
He says the options are not binding but to start conversation. Ok. But why the anger when I make a choice? Certainly the anger originates because he wanted to control my choice yet give the impression that I made ‘my own’ choice. When I didn’t choice the way he secretly intended I choose, the anger explodes and I’m the bad guy.